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Start the new year well

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…. without judging

Go into your new day with open eyes and an open mind.

Meet everyone without without judging, without labeling them.

Start to meet people with curious eyes and get to know them again with fresh eyes.

I learn more about them this way.

Over Christmas I read the book Eleanor Oliphant is completely fine.

(as recommended via Beth’s blog)

A brilliant book:

 

Meet Eleanor Oliphant: she struggles with appropriate social skills and tends to say exactly what she’s thinking. Nothing is missing in her carefully timetabled life of avoiding unnecessary human contact, where weekends are punctuated by frozen pizza, vodka, and phone chats with Mummy.

But everything changes when Eleanor meets Raymond, the bumbling and deeply unhygienic IT guy from her office. When she and Raymond together save Sammy, an elderly gentleman who has fallen, the three rescue one another from the lives of isolation that they had been living. Ultimately, it is Raymond’s big heart that will help Eleanor find the way to repair her own profoundly damaged one. If she does, she’ll learn that she, too, is capable of finding friendship—and even love—after all.

the only way to survive is to open your heart

 

I loved the book, it opens your eyes in how you see people,

we often judge people but never know why they are the way they are.

What you go through in your life shapes your life.

How you grow up, what you hear, your friends everything influences your life and the way you are.

Read the book you’ll love it.

 

Weekly inspiration No 38 – Don’t judge

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In this world everyone judges others on the way people dress,

how they look, what they say etc.

It is very hard not to.

It takes discipline, compassion, patience and listening skills.

 

Every person has their own story.

We think we can  feel the same,

still it is not always possible

 

 

 

Go ahead.

Judge me.

Just remember

to be perfect the rest of your life.

 

 

With love

from me

❤ ❤ ❤

Judging

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I found this story on a Darren ‘s  blog I follow and wanted to share this again to show how we always judge people very quickly but don’t see ourselves often in the right light.

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A young couple moved into a new neighbourhood.

The next morning while they were eating breakfast, the young woman saw her neighbor hanging the washing outside.

“That laundry is not very clean; she doesn’t know how to wash correctly. Perhaps she needs better laundry soap.”

Her husband looked on, remaining silent.

Every time her neighbour hung her washing out to dry, the young woman made the same comments.

A month later, the woman was surprised to see a nice clean wash on the line and said to her husband, “Look, she’s finally learned how to wash correctly. I wonder who taught her this?”

The husband replied, “I got up early this morning and cleaned our windows.”

 

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How often do we judge too quickly and not realize that it might be us looking at things differently or through different light (window).

Before we judge others we should always look into ourselves.

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The best thing is not to judge and make assumptions. Life is kinder that way.

So I conclude with the No 3 of the 4 agreements from Miguel Ruiz:

3. Don’t Make Assumptions

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.