I found this story on a Darren ‘s blog I follow and wanted to share this again to show how we always judge people very quickly but don’t see ourselves often in the right light.
A young couple moved into a new neighbourhood.
The next morning while they were eating breakfast, the young woman saw her neighbor hanging the washing outside.
“That laundry is not very clean; she doesn’t know how to wash correctly. Perhaps she needs better laundry soap.”
Her husband looked on, remaining silent.
Every time her neighbour hung her washing out to dry, the young woman made the same comments.
A month later, the woman was surprised to see a nice clean wash on the line and said to her husband, “Look, she’s finally learned how to wash correctly. I wonder who taught her this?”
The husband replied, “I got up early this morning and cleaned our windows.”
How often do we judge too quickly and not realize that it might be us looking at things differently or through different light (window).
Before we judge others we should always look into ourselves.
The best thing is not to judge and make assumptions. Life is kinder that way.
So I conclude with the No 3 of the 4 agreements from Miguel Ruiz:
3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
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Matt’s questions and my answers:
Favourite quote from a book?
It is from The Alchemist/ Paulo Coelho: “Remember that wherever you heart is, there you will find your treasure” and ” One is loves because one is loved. No reason is needed for loving”
Favourite villain from a book?
Jaws from James Bond, he is a villain but also so simple minded and somehow sweet.
Have you ever read a book set in your home town?
Yes, I love that. They are crime stories and they are set in my country and my county and some even in the town were I grew up in Germany. It is great to read where the villain walks and I know exactly where that is and can imagine it so well.
Do you constantly reorganise your bookshelf?
No need 🙂 … my books are all in alphabetical order of the author. Also I have German shelves and English shelves. All books are also recorded on a spreadsheet on excel. I like it orderly… 🙂
Which two protagonists, from two different book series’, would you lock in one room for an hour.
How about Sherlock Holmes and Miss Marple…. what a pair, they have more to talk than an hour!
Which is your favourite corner of the house to curl up with a book?
Do you read some books twice and why?
Have you ever read secretly under the covers? Tell us more….
The days are getting shorter and it is almost night by the time we get home from work.
“Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.”
There are so many things in my life daily I am grateful for.
Here are some of them:
My colleagues saying happily “Good Morning , what a beautiful day” to me this morning!
The wonderful healthy salad sandwich I had for lunch.
My cat sitting at the top of the stairs greeting me when I get home!
My fluffy teddy fleece cardigan.
The progress of my knitting, ( my Icelandic style jumper)
The hug my 22 year old son gave me.
The love I feel from you, my friends, close and far away.
What are you grateful for today?
Gratitude is one of the sweet shortcuts to finding peace of and happiness inside. No matter what is going on outside of us, there’s always something we could be grateful for. ”
Don’t waste another minute on the people, places and things that don’t make you happy.
I found this some time ago… go for it….
“in honour of the fact that life is short
wear your white shirts. get them pressed.
use your good dishes — everyday.
shave on weekends.
do not wait for special occasions.
do not tuck your best away in the drawers, in the back of the closet, in your heart.
don’t wait for holidays or invitations.
declare that your today is the special occasion.
call instead of emailing. (it feels so good to connect.)
go for coffee.
renounce your glory days. you’ve told all of those stories more than twice.
wear perfume for yourself. toss your only-wear-around-the-house clothes and let your good clothes graduate to around-the-house status.
intend to feel good all of the time.
write your book.
make great sex a priority. (this alone will make you more creative and free. on your death bed, you will think about all the great sex you had this lifetime.)
burn your to-do list.
write poetry. One a day.
make a point to be as encouraging as possible, as much as possible, to everyone possible.
don’t look back.
if you feel like you’re always failing, consider that this is part of being an artist. let it be a divine inclination. keep going.
eat real food.
often refuse to be in the presence of people who make you feel repressed, anxious, or pull your frequency down.
do not entertain haters.
send light to the haters.
give it away. you probably don’t need it and someone else does.
turn off the tv.
let it be easy.
burn candles. during the day.
fall in love. with yourself. with the person you’re with. with the persons in your orbit.
because no one is perfect, but you can let the love be perfect for the both of you.
because everyone — everyone — is a doorway to God.
because you can get there from here.
because life is short.”